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Connecting

Have you ever looked at the internet tab as you are waiting for a site to download? Did you notice it says connecting and swirls until it connects to where you want to go?

Day 5 - Lunch at Panera Bread

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Connecting…

Sometimes the internet connects quickly and we are so happy we did not have to wait and wait. Sometimes is seems to take forever to connect.

Are we like that too? Do we connect quickly with others or is it hard for us to connect to others? Can we slow down our lives to make time for others? This past few weeks I have spent so much time connecting and reconnecting with friends. The visits and talks we have had over tea, lunch or dinner have been amazing. And the meals delicious!

My best friend from grade school and I had lunch last week after years of a Christmas card friendship as our children were growing. Even though we only lived twenty minutes apart our life path took us in different directions. Thank goodness for the connection of Christmas cards each year. She picked me up and I don’t think we stop talking and catching up for the three hours we visiting and ate Panera’s soup and sandwich.

What about Facebook? Sometimes a “friend” uses FB as an outreach for help through a rough time, sometimes it to share good news or daily moods, and sometimes it reconnects relationships. Summer of 2010 was a high school reunion year for me. The committee posted the reunion event on Facebook for all the classmates to respond. It was so good to see so many classmates at the reunion and then to keep connected with them through their posts and pictures. I love celebrating the pictures of some that are already grandparents (unbelievable, since I don’t feel old enough to be a grandparent) and some that have children graduating. I enjoy FB for the way it connects me to near and far away friends.

Connect through calls, visits, and cards. Share a comment on how you connect with those in your life.

So now the next time you look at the internet tab that is swirling around waiting to connect, pause and realize how many connections you have in your life and how you can foster those connections each day.

Call a friend and have a Panera lunch…
Embrace life and laugh with someone…and CONNECT!

Connecting..

 

 

 

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True Love

What is Love actually?
Today is Valentine’s Day and the roses are delivered and cards sent, but are those things love?
Love is so much more than this one day, it’s so much more than flowers or well wishes.
Love is divine, love is something we can’t touch or see, love begins in the depth of our souls.
 
One of my favorite movies is Love Actually.
I know some thinks it’s a Christmas movie, but it stirs such deep emotions within me that are not just “Christmas-y”.
Love actually is a mirror into so many different relationships.
 
My family talks about which relationship in the movie we like the best and we can never settle on one.
 
Joanna and Sam…who has not had a first love. A love so pure and innocent that you would race under the security radar and sprint through airports, just to say good-bye.  A love that you open your heart to
 
The Prime Minister and Natalie…awkward and unexpected. Love can be so surprising when it catches you off guard. The freeing feeling of being totally yourself, making a fool of yourself and knowing that someone loves you even with all your flaws
 
Jamie and Aurelia…breaking barriers. Love cannot be contained by language or proximate barriers. Love conquers anything when you recognize it and embrace it.
 
Mark and Juliet…adoration. Knowing there is something or someone who you love so deeply that you can make choices for their good, in spite of how you feel is foundational in long relationship. You open yourself to an amazing love when you put others before yourself. Love whether it is unreturned or not.
 
Billy and Joe…friendship. I love this deep friendship that knows no boundaries and has been carved from respect. Friends  are there through thick and thin, through hills and valley, through better and worse. Friendship love is like the glue that holds people together.
 
Sarah and Karl…family. We love our spouses, we love our friends and we have crushes, but everything begins with family. God created the family in the image of the Holy Trinity, we are a communal people, we need relationships, we need touch, we need connection. We need love.
 
Treasure and nurture each of the unique types of love you have in your life!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
 
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Book of James 4

The fourth chapter of James begins with “Where do the wars and where do the conflicts among you come from? Is it not from your passions that make war within your members? You covet but do not possess.” What are you willing to fight for? Is it because you are coveting something?

I was talking with someone the other day who shared her struggles of constantly being judged by neighbors. What type of car I drive, what type of house I own, what type of clothes I wear, what type of achievements I have achieved and so on. Within our own circles there are inner “wars” of envy and jealousy going on. People do covet, they try to keep up. Children with cell phones in elementary school, iPads for Christmas and cars on a 16th birthday. A life of privilege? or just a life trying to keep up the facade of privilege? My children didn’t have cell phone until they were driving and no one in my family has an iPad yet…and we are surviving just fine!

Our passion should be for our hearts, our morality, our dignity, our good name.
A good name does not come with what we have but from who we are.
How we treat others and how we reach out to those in need.

This youtube show a selfless young child thinking of others and standing up for what we believes in, it’s worth a watch.

The Girls that silenced the world

James also tells us “you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.”

Life is good! There are so many blessings each and every day.
Seek them, embrace them, share them. Speak up, as this young woman did and be a mist for good in the world.

We spend time and energy on emails, texting Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, Ancestry and endless hours on just surfing the web. Can we put some of that energy into releasing the things we covet and embrace the goodness of life?

We need to use these vices for good! I know they have for me!
Emails and texting have improved communication, I know when my father was battling Lymphoma, my siblings and I communicated through emails, cell phones and texts through every day with status on Dad’s outlook.
Facebook has reconnected friends and families, I have cousins and friends all over the world that I now am able to experience their children’s lives through messages and pictures.
LinkedIn and Twitter is a great was to share updates about your life also.
Pinterest and Ancestry have been my new passion for about six months now. On Ancestry I have found birth certificates, naturalization papers and census listing family members that are long gone and giving me a glimpse into their lives. Finding relatives of cousins from California to Italy. And Pinterest is a wonderful place for me to post all the website I discover and want to save for later, a much more creative and attractive way than using the favorite button. It’s also a great way to share my tastes and dreams and to see friends boards too.
So I’m a FBer, Tweeter and Pinner – all for good, positive sharing.

We don’t know what will happen tomorrow.
Worrying about how others judge you is useless, that will only spark conflict in your life.
Rise above those that covet and embrace the joys of life – share your dreams, allow others to share theirs, in whatever way works (techy or not).

Stand tall in knowing that your mist is only here for a moment, but for that moment, it provided comfort to another.

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Kind…Smart…Important

You is kind.
You is smart.
You is important.

Aibileen may have been just the lowly black servant of the house, but she forever positively influenced the lives of the children’s ears she whispered those words into.
I watched “The Help” and then read the book recently. A wonderful story with touching characters and harsh realities of our world.

Aibileen was treated as unimportant, but she made sure the children in her care felt elevated.
Aibileens kindness and intelligence went unnoticed because of her skin color, but she was one of the most perceptive and giving characters in the story.
She saw the prejudice around her and the prejudice directed at her, but she rose above it and lived in truth.

Prejudice still exists today. Sometimes it not the color of the skin, but the address of their home or the intelligence of their being. Hate comes masked in all different forms. Evil comes masked behind pretentious smiles just as often as hatred is visually noticeable in others body language.

We need love, we need acceptance, we need purpose.
We need to be told we are kind, smart and important. People do not realize we feel that way unless we tell them. Can you imagine if every child was told each day how important they are to the world around them…what a world this would be…just stop and imagine…now help that become a reality!

Those three little sentences in a movie about so many life lessons may have been the most profound for me.

Do we tell those around us how important they are to us? Do we reach out in kindness to others? Life brings us many challenges, depression can come so easily if we feel that we have no purpose. The funny thing is, you may never know how one small act can impact another. Consider Mark and Bill…a true story…

Mark was walking home from school one day when he noticed the boy ahead of him had tripped and dropped all of the books he was carrying, along with two sweaters, a baseball bat, a glove and a small tape recorder. Mark knelt down and helped the boy pick up the scattered articles. Since they were going the same way, he helped to carry part of the burden. As they walked Mark discovered the boy’s name was Bill, that he loved video games, baseball and history, and that he was having lots of trouble with his other subjects and that he had just broken up with his girlfriend. They arrived at Bill’s home first and Mark was invited in for a Coke and to watch some television. The afternoon passed pleasantly with a few laughs and some shared small talk, then Mark went home. They continued to see each other around school, had lunch together once or twice, then both graduated from junior high school. They ended up in the same high school where they had brief contacts over the years. Finally the long awaited senior year came and three weeks before graduation, Bill asked Mark if they could talk.

Bill reminded him of the day years ago when they had first met. “Did you ever wonder why I was carrying so many things home that day?” asked Bill. “You see, I cleaned out my locker because I didn’t want to leave a mess for anyone else. I had stored away some of my mothers sleeping pills and I was going home to commit suicide. But after we spent some time together talking and laughing, I realized that if I had killed myself, I would have missed that time and so many others that might follow. So you see, Mark, when you picked up those books that day, you did a lot more, you saved my life.”

-John W. Schlatter

You may have read or heard of a similar story on the internet about Kyle, but that story exploded from this simple one. But this story is not simple, it was important to Bill. It is a story that needs to be shared.

You can make a difference too!
You can be a Mark to someone else and turn a simple momentary act into life altering action!
You can be Aibileen and build up someone’s confidence by using only the power of your words!

How will you be Kind, Smart and Important to someone else today?

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What’s on your Christmas list?

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas…every where you go!

And I’m not just singing the song, it really is looking like Christmas. Chicago has only gotten a snow dusting for one day so far, but it was enough to get you bundling up and preparing for the long winter nights.

I love the change of seasons, the cool brisk air, the scarves pulled over your face, the warm Ugg boots and the cold “puppy dog” nose. With winter weather comes the joy of Christmas. It is a time of hope, when miracles seem possible. It is a time of peace, where neighbors share good cheer. It is a time of love, where greetings are sent and hugs are delivered with family and friends spending time with each other.

I pray for all those families that are spending this Christmas without a loved one. That empty space at the table can only be filled with memories and stories of times spent together. May each of those families feel the warmth of Christ as he holds them especially close through the holidays. I am wishing that they too can see the hope, peace and love of Christmas.

Christmas time is filled with decorating, baking, celebrating, shopping and gift-giving. My children always ask for a list of ideas that they can get me – and they are always eager to send me what they would like as gifts. So what on my list?

Two weeks with both my children home
My husband’s homemade French Toast
Game nights together
Dinner and a show Downtown
Snuggling on the couch watching movies

My favorite gifts are never store bought…they are always heart given…memories that last forever, love that never ends.
This Christmas, I am forever grateful for my incredible family, our good fortune of health and home.

May the brown paper packages tied up with string under your Christmas tree be filled with JOY!!!

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